“HER IMPATIENCE FOR THIS SECOND LETTER WAS AS WELL REWARDED AS IMPATIENCE GENERALLY IS.” –– Pride and Prejudice
When my daughter and I got new cell phones in April, I was confident that we would enjoy our new smartphones. One month later my daughter’s speaker went out and her back cover broke. We got it replace but this required an hour at the Verizon store and waiting a few days to get the new phone, returning to the store and getting it activated, then mailing the old phone back in a timely manner. Just a fluke, right? A month and a half later we had similar problems and we went back to the store and repeated the process. When our 4 month anniversary passed of owning our new phones, both my daughter and my phone charging ports went out, requiring both to be replaced. Four new phones in 4 months. Ug. I marched into the store and impatiently demanded that we not get replacement phones, but instead we wanted better upgraded phones and I was determined to insist on this. I believe my words were, “I will not do this for 20 more months, I simply will not! You will do something about this and you will do it now!” I of course was civil but no one could doubt or hesitate to sympathize with my anger and impatience. The poor employee told me my options, which were dismal and expensive. Then he said to call the company myself and talk to customer service. I had no problem doing that. As soon as I returned home I called customer service and rehearsed to them my dilemma and my dissatisfaction and in less than 20 minutes, I had new upgraded phones coming in the mail.
Let us look at another scenario. A friend of mine is considering marriage and the lady he loves is not ready for marriage yet. He has discussed this with me briefly and I have to admit I counseled him to be patient. Love cannot be rushed and marriage is a huge decision. I do not know how he took this counsel. I suspect he feels that his impatience will be rewarded and he will disregard my counsel. He prides himself in being a determined and persistent man but I fear these qualities will only push the lady away. Certain things, like marriage, cannot be rushed. Life decisions that alter more than one life should not be made based on feelings alone. One needs a rational mind. What will the lady do in response to his impatience? What kind of reward will he get for his persistence?
Now remember, although this quote is intended as a witty joke, I break it down for purposes of this blog to see its literal meaning. So in these two scenarios, one can see the wisdom in Jane Austen’s words, words that I at first thought were fallible. In the cell phone situation, my impatience with faulty equipment and service was indeed rewarded, as often happens with sales. After all, the customer is always right! However, in the situation where my friend is pushing his girlfriend for marriage when she is not ready, I’m afraid also will result in a reward. That reward however will probably not be favorable. The lady might question his character or his intent and motivation for pushing for a marriage so quickly and therefore his impatience will have a poor impact on their relationship.
Is impatience generally rewarded? Could Jane Austen's joke be actually true? I believe so. But just like any choice we make, the consequence cannot be chosen. You may choose the choice, but not the consequence. So I believe that Jane Austen was quite correct in her statement that at one time left me quite baffled at its logic. Impatience is most definitely rewarded, unfortunately not always for the good. Beware of your impatience, for leashed to it is a reward that you may not be ready for or desire.
And of course, Jane Austen is always proven right. I am now sufficiently humbled once again as my idol is back on her pedestal.
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